Take a bubble bath, order four bottles of champagne, wrap on up in cozy robes and let your worries float away.
Cry, bitch, laugh, sing, dance…do whatever you have to do to let go. Even if the escape is only temporary.
Feeling empty? Well there are countless ways to fill up on endorphins (sparkling wine is a good place to start). Stress is the catalyst for so many real-life ailments, and negative energy is highly contagious disease that nobody wants to catch.
Easier said than done, perhaps, but we must try and set ourselves free every once in a while, and embrace things that enable a more restful state of mind.
When I get lost, I remember my road trips…sticking my head out the window, with the music blasting, closing my eyes and letting the wind blow through my hair. These were the times when I allowed myself to feel life, like a beating pulse, rather than stumble along like a zombie off course.
I’ve certainly had my fair share of “moments”, where crying feels like the only possible release. But it is really important to remember those other times…the times when you you couldn’t help but smile, even if you tried super hard to keep a straight face. Just writing this is making me smile, because I am grateful for my friendships and the wonderful memories I’ve made so far.
We all deserve a night off from time to time. When the road gets rocky it’s easy to forget that it’s OK to escape for a second. There are endless opportunities for enjoyment out there, we just have to be willing to embrace them.
It is a bizarre and familiar feeling to be so utterly inspired and disinterested at the same time…
To wake up with so much hope and gratitude, while simultaneously feeling like my bones may crumble to dust if someone says the “wrong” thing.
Life can be a faulty, volatile, jolting roller coaster. Minutes can go by before I realize that I’ve practically forgotten to inhale…
But, if you aren’t struggling, at least a little bit, then what the fuck are you doing?
OWN IT: who you were, who you are, who you want to become…and don’t forget to keep on learning along the way.
Do you want to listen to one song on repeat…
Over and over and over again, until you are taking your last breath, wishing you had heard all of the music?
Is that monotony alone not enough to kill you?
Who wants to return to the same unfulfilling job, day after day, with no aspirations for bigger and better?
Who wants to make a routine of reoccurring conversations with the same people, about the same bullshit, at the same depressing bar?
Who wants to crawl into bed each night, defeated, next to a person who owns your heart but doesn’t keep it locked up in a place that feels safe? Someone who holds you because they love you enough to know you need it, but not because they want to feel the closeness you’re starving for…
I do know that this this is not what I want.
Personally, I am okay with living on the edge of a cliff. If being excited also means being scared and taken off guard, from time to time, I’ll try and keep on rolling with it.
I want to put myself in risky situations where possibilities are endless. I want to let the world throw me curveballs, so that I can go through the process of swinging and missing, slowly learn how to hit them, potentially strike out from time to time, but eventually be able to knock that shit out of the park. I’m willing to work for my personal home run.
Do I want to fall? Of course not – who does? But I will fall, just as I have done time and time again. And I will pick myself back up…the same way that I always have. I imagine each time it will get a little bit easier. Shake it off and prepare yourself for whatever may come next – be it beautiful or trying.
Embracing challenges is vital to facing, and overcoming, life’s inevitable hurdles…the challenges that help mold us as human beings and, ultimately, define our character. Without struggle one can never fully appreciate the brightness that surrounds us.
I want to discover true love – the kind that doesn’t make love hurt so much. I’ve had two great loves, both of which left me feeling thankful and sad. But they didn’t make me lose faith. And who knows, maybe one of those love stories isn’t over yet. I hope it’s not.
I think I will find the right person as soon as I can find my bearings. Once I am able to fully love myself, and be the right person…to look in the mirror and feel contentment rather than anxiety. We’re all capable of this, I believe, as long we keep our minds and our hearts in the right place.
I want to find a guy as crazy as I am to laugh, talk, and fully enjoy my life with, without hurting him. Not because I need it, but because I would rather share my curiosity with someone majestic than live through the magic all alone.
It’s sort of like waffles…I would eat them plain if I was really hungry, but I’d prefer to have them with syrup, strawberries, and three mimosas. Why settle for something that only leaves you longing for more?
At the end of the day, I want to be “happy”, just like everyone else on this wild earth. But I have come to acknowledge that the cut-and-dry, dictionary definition for this powerful word is sort of a sham.
“Happy” is more than a word. It is a sentiment that means something different to every person you pass by on the street…my version of “happy” is not the same as anyone else’s.
I think “happy” means taking that occasional, sometimes fleeting, but triumphantly powerful inspiration that anyone with a flicker of passion feels at one point or another, and storing it somewhere safe. It means opening your heart, allowing it to be broken without completely giving up hope, holding on to your morals and beliefs as if they are your most valuable possessions, having integrity, falling down, figuring out how to regain your strength when you feel completely dick slapped by everything and everyone around you, broadening your horizons with each and every tick of the clock, and putting your playlist on shuffle.
Don’t listen to the same song on repeat or do the same stupid dance over and over and over again, wishing you had experienced more of the music. There is so much music, and so much life. And the best part is, it’s never too late to experience, take a deep breath, and enjoy the wild, unpredictable and wondrous ride.
*head to toe: Christina Economou Oversized T-shirt, Christina Economou Collage Jupe Culottes (more rompers and playsuits here), Tantocosì by Riviere Borsa Milano Scala bag via Capolavori (similar satchel styles here)
Photography by MiG Ayesa
“A diamond is merely a lump of coal that did well under pressure.” Henry Kissinger
Sometimes life can be a real mother fucker. And I don’t even mean that to be a pessimistic statement….it’s just true. Bad shit happens to good people. The world is riddled with inexplicable hatred, and more grief and injustice than I will ever comprehend. But we persevere, because…is there another option?
Instead of cracking under pressure, I’m going to try and keep searching for that small, shiny light that has to exist somewhere – even if all think you see is pitch black darkness. Finding that glimmer of hope could be just enough to remember there’s actually just as much love and strength around us as there is evil.
Perhaps the reason people endure excruciating pain, is because it helps open our eyes to other invaluable treasures that exist around us….blessings in our lives we’ve been taking for granted without noticing.
It’s hard not to get swallowed up by unjustified wrongs, when sadness is completely warranted. But we can always try our best to paint a silver lining around broken hearts. Right now I just feel like life, love and joy are worth everything, even if times are tough.
So excited to share this very special feature, in collaboration with I.W. Harper and Frederic Malle! I happen to be quite seasoned when it comes to sipping on spirits, so working with I.W. Harper always makes for a fun time (check out my previous post about Holiday Cocktailing for some delicious ideas). However, as much as I love and have a strong appreciation for the art of perfumery, I’ve always been too indecisive to pick out my “signature scent”.
I.W. Harper and Frederic Malle went went above and beyond in setting up this amazing experience. Frederic Malle offers an uncompromising approach to fragrance creation, assisting customers in finding their ideal perfume, with the help of their highly trained and approachable team of experts. They’ll steer you in the right direction, paying close attention to the specific notes and combinations you’re naturally drawn to – whether it be a bolder scent, or something light, clean and fresh.
I was graciously paired with an incredible woman, Dinara Tuleuova, who taught me so much! Ms. Tuleuova walked me through the process, step by step, in a way that wasn’t intimidating for a newbie like myself. She made me feel comfortable while asking thoughtful and relevant questions. It was an educational and enjoyable experience, which ultimately led to my to finding that perfect perfume, En Passant…a selection undeniably inspired by the chic, retro appeal of I.W. Harper whiskey!
While there are many amazing options, I fell for this refreshing combination of white lilac, orange leaves, cucumber and wheat. And all throughout the selection process, I was able to enjoy I.W. Harper cocktails…a pretty magical afternoon!
I’ve always been intrigued by perfume and and the power it holds. A complimentary fragrance can be the finishing touch to an outfit, the best accessory for a silk negligee, or even worn on its own (yes, in the absence of clothing), if you are looking to create an irresistibly seductive atmosphere. Add I.W. Harper’s classic whiskey with a modern twist to the mix, and prepare yourself for one seriously lustful scenario!
I want to live my life like a balloon…be able to rise above. I want to let go of the anger and distress that can sometimes consume me, and just feel weightless. I want to soar to great heights without letting anything or anyone hold me back. I want to fly away.
Very excited to announce the “grand opening” of my new online storefront, Shop OnTheRacks, which I’ve put together in collaboration with Look Ave. This very cool platform has enabled me to create my own curated boutique, based around the outfits I wear, love and share right here and on Instagram.
From my favorite bags or shoes, to other must-haves, I am pretty amped that there’s now an actual shopping destination where my beloved belongings can live together in perfect harmony. Click here to check it out!
If you see something you like and want to add an it to your wish list, just “heart” your favorites and get notified when they go on sale. Not only that, but Shop OnTheRacks showcases the multiple ways I’ve styled most items and incorporated specific pieces into different looks in the past.
Also, you can learn more about my life on Look Ave. by reading this quirky little interview I had so much fun talking through! Super excited to finally have this up and running…ready to share with likeminded ladies. Hope you enjoy, and please do feel free to offer feedback! The goal here is to make this an enjoyable and inspiring shopping destination, and there’s no way we could accomplish that without your support. xx