Whiskey In A Teacup

13 Mar

Whiskey In A Teacup

New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Kelsi Dagger Brooklyn, KDB, shoe and handbag campaign
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Kelsi Dagger Brooklyn, KDB, shoe and handbag campaign
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Kelsi Dagger Brooklyn, KDB, shoe and handbag campaign
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Kelsi Dagger Brooklyn, KDB, shoe and handbag campaign
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Kelsi Dagger Brooklyn, KDB, shoe and handbag campaign

For the REAL ones.

Those friends you knew you’d connect with from day one…even if you met under circumstances so random as being recruited for the same blogger reality show that neither of you would have actually gone through with. << true story

Hats off, and flower crowns on, to the people you can laugh and cry and drink and not give two fucks about anything with…sometimes.

Here’s to the friends who keep you in check and serve as constant reminders – through tough love, encouragement and example – that you you can be simultaneously insane and successful. You can be fun, free-spirited, and stand on your own two feet. You can achieve whatever it is you want to out of life, so long as you are kind, honest, and hard-working.

These are the people I want to be around. 

I am grateful for ladies like Erica who remind me of the deep-rooted passion that fuels me, even if it gets buried from time to time. Thanks to all of the strong women who I watch overcome obstacles with courage and grace. To all of the badass, successful, hardworking gals out there who beat the odds and make life happen on their own. To those who have a powerful yet delicate spirit, and never lose sight of what’s truly important.

I raise my whiskey-filled teacup to you.

*Kelsi Dagger Brooklyn campaign shot by Jono Bernstein

Night Crawler

24 Feb

Night Crawler

New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: San Francisco Clift Hotel, Black backless dress, night out on the town
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: San Francisco Clift Hotel, Black backless dress, night out on the town
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: San Francisco Clift Hotel, Black backless dress, night out on the town
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: San Francisco Clift Hotel, Black backless dress, night out on the town
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: San Francisco Clift Hotel, Black backless dress, night out on the town

“I don’t give a shit what the world thinks. I was born a bitch, I was born a painter, I was born fucked. But I was happy in my way. You did not understand what I am. I am love. I am pleasure, I am essence, I am an idiot, I am an alcoholic, I am tenacious. I am; simply I am…You are a shit.” Frida Kahlo, from an unsent letter to Diego Rivera 

While I do not necessarily identify directly with every word written by the legendary artist quoted above, there is no denying the profound, heart-wrenching relatability that is present in its message.

I wasn’t born a bitch (though at times, I certainly can behave like one), I am not a painter, and being “fucked up” is sort of something what was an evolutionary process. I am tenacious, no doubt. I am passionate as all hell and sometimes I feel the anger, hurt and white-hot fire these words represent…almost as if they were pulled directly from my soul.

Note that this was taken from a portion of a letter written by Frida Kahlo to Diego Rivera that went unsent. I cannot tell you how many times I have done this. Putting my thoughts on paper has become an invaluable form of therapy, release and a channel to express emotions so powerful that, to be honest, I may be the only one who truly comprehends the weight and meaning my private words internally hold.

Whether it be a journal entry or an unsent letter to a loved one, where furious feelings are revealed and, often times, vicious daggers are figuratively thrown, I’ve learned to try and pump the breaks, if possible. This is not because I am anti-communication (I am likely the biggest advocate for openness and conversation — often times to a fault), but because I have, through experience, been slapped with the cold, hard realization that anyone who can induce such resentment and exasperation, is either unworthy or incapable of truly absorbing the meaning behind my words.

So, here’s to us — the ones who have had our hearts broken, who have acted out, who have turned to self-hate, anger and substance abuse in an attempt to cope with the bullshit life throws our way. Hats off to those who have had the strength to stand up and hold their own — to speak out or write down what they feel (sent or unsent), and move forward with their lives.

I love these harsh, disturbing, beautiful words by Frida Kahlo — so much that I feel them in my bones.

So cheers to being a an idiot and an alcoholic. Cheers to being pleasure and essence. Cheers to being happy in your own way and not being afraid to call out any friend, boss, acquaintance, lover or enemy who hinders the free, wild spirt that drives an electric current through your soul.

Cheers is to writing a fucking letter that expresses the words you so desperately and painfully hold within — even if the only person you actually are writing it for is yourself.

*head to toe: backless chain jersey dress by Atelier Gabriella Daher, Satur-Date heels by Kate Spade Saturday (pretty legit sale going on right now, FYI)

Photographed by Lance Skundrich at the Clift Hotel

Throw Like A Girl

17 Feb

Throw Like A Girl

New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Cabin in the woods, knit beanie, fur jacket, basic white tee, painted vintage jeans, black booties
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Cabin in the woods, knit beanie, fur jacket, basic white tee, painted vintage jeans, black booties
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Cabin in the woods, knit beanie, fur jacket, basic white tee, painted vintage jeans, black booties
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Cabin in the woods, knit beanie, fur jacket, basic white tee, painted vintage jeans, black booties
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Cabin in the woods, knit beanie, fur jacket, basic white tee, painted vintage jeans, black booties

“Yes, I kick like a girl and swim like a girl and I walk like a girl and I wake up in the morning like a girl because I am a girl. And that’s not something that I should be ashamed of.”

I might not be winning any snowball fights, but that isn’t because I am a girl. I just happen to suck at being in the snow and don’t enjoy when my fingers go numb. If I actually cared about winning a snowball fight, I would win that damn snowball fight.

Yes, the title of this post is a reference to the kick-ass tampon commercial that aired during the Super Bowl (definitely worth watching if you haven’t seen it). It was refreshing to, for once, see an advertisement about, ya know, “that time of the month”, that isn’t cheesy as hell and completely irrelevant. Yoga, cartwheels, horseback riding, running on the beach, bla, bla, bla…

Last month a few of my favorite ladies and I fled the city and rented a cozy cabin in Connecticut, enjoying a weekend away from the bullshit. It was the most fun I’ve had in a long time — an escape from those daily curveballs that sometimes knock me off base, allowing me to forget that I actually have all the power in the world and can do whatever I want with my life. No boys, no drama, no insecurities or inhibitions. Just real talk, silly behavior and plenty of unforgettable moments.

I laughed like a girl, cried like a girl, partied like a girl, ate pizza like a girl, ran around in my underwear like a girl, frolicked in the freezing cold like a girl, screamed like a girl, played with makeup and stayed up all night like a girl…

Well, guess what? At the end of that weekend I felt strong, confident and more powerful than ever.

I am no diehard super-feminist or anything….you know, the ones who are anti-men. In fact, I happen to be a huge fan of men. I like to get dolled up, be given flowers, and treated like a princess. I like that I can be vulnerable and have a soft, fragile side. I enjoy being taken care of sometimes, but know that I don’t need a man to take care of me.

I embrace my sexuality and am not ashamed of that. So I have the body of a pre-pubescent boy…I’ve finally become comfortable with it. I also wear “boyfriend jeans”, drink whisky, and curse like a sailor. At the same time, I am very proud of the fact that I am a girl who makes her own money, launched her own business and is capable of loving without holding back in fear. I stand up for myself like a girl, take risks like a girl, make brave decisions like a girl, and hustle like a freaking girl.

So here is to being a girl and owning it…let’s be real, we’re kind of the best.

*head to toe: Madewell knit beanie, vintage fur jacket, basic white tank (similar style here), Rialto Jean Project painted pants, Vagabond booties from Urban Outfitters

photos shot by Serena Goh

Walking In A Winter Wonderland

30 Jan

Walking In A Winter Wonderland

New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Snow day, brimmed hat, vintage fur coat, oversized knit sweater, grey biker jeans,  leather boots
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Snow day, brimmed hat, vintage fur coat, oversized knit sweater, grey biker jeans,  leather boots
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Snow day, brimmed hat, vintage fur coat, oversized knit sweater, grey biker jeans,  leather boots
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel blog: Snow day, brimmed hat, vintage fur coat, oversized knit sweater, grey biker jeans,  leather boots

On our mission to prep for what we thought would be several days snowed in (i.e. hitting the corner wine shop to stock up on “essentials”), Stacey, Erica and I were able to capture a few moments spent frolicking around Brooklyn-turned-winter wonderland earlier this week.

Walking the streets that night was sort of surreal, especially since the Mayor declared a ban on all automobiles after 11pm. Almost like being in a ghost town, right in the middle of the Big City. Quiet, peaceful, and beyond beautiful…not words I would typically use to describe New York (at least the first two).

The storm passed quickly, so now it’s just frigid and muddy. I’m very much looking forward to fleeing to Florida for a few days and enjoying some family time and warmer temps.

Have a good weekend!!

*head to toe: Rag & Bone floppy fedora (ShopBop is having a BIG sale right now that includes this hat, by the way!), vintage fur jacket, vintage knit sweater from Edith Machinist (similar style here), Citizens of Humanity distressed black skinny jeans, vintage booties 

Photos by Stacey Belko

The Best Gifts of All

7 Dec

The Best Gifts of All

New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Gifts for All Your Girls Campaign, Kate Spade Saturday, Holiday dressing, holiday gift guide
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Gifts for All Your Girls Campaign, Kate Spade Saturday, Holiday dressing, holiday gift guide
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Gifts for All Your Girls Campaign, Kate Spade Saturday, Holiday dressing, holiday gift guide
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Gifts for All Your Girls Campaign, Kate Spade Saturday, Holiday dressing, holiday gift guide
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Gifts for All Your Girls Campaign, Kate Spade Saturday, Holiday dressing, holiday gift guide
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Gifts for All Your Girls Campaign, Kate Spade Saturday, Holiday dressing, holiday gift guide
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Gifts for All Your Girls Campaign, Kate Spade Saturday, Holiday dressing, holiday gift guide

Kate Spade Saturday recently approached me to participate in their very adorable “Gifts for All Your Girls” campaign, and I have to say it has been one of the most fun projects I have had the pleasure of working on in a while. Basically, the perfect excuse to kick off the holidays a little bit early, get dolled up in fun, festive frocks, and exchange cute presents with some of my nearest and dearest.

Living in the melting pot that is New York City, when the winter season comes around, my “friend family” tends to inevitably part ways, each of us doing our own thing for much of December. Whether it is going home for Christmas, enjoying an envious vacation, or simply migrating toward warmer climates, it is one of those months where party planning is much easier said than done. This was just the nudge I needed to gather some of my favorite ladies, sip on seasonal cocktails at The Derby, and engage in a little gift giving! From party dresses to adorable presents, Saturday.com has so many great options for the holiday season…

I am in love with this lamé Lightbeam Skirt, and how cute does Jess look in the Gold Dot Cardigan?! Some of the presents I picked out for us to exchange were the Lots of Dots pouch and wallet, Mini Zipline crosbody bagHEY! ring, Party On botttle opener, gold driving gloves, and my personal favorite, The Eureka! Book (seriously, this thing is awesome — especially if you are a fan of quirky arts and crafts like I am). And there’s a whole lot more where that came from HERE.

Want to give a huge thanks to Erica, Jess, Kai and Jono for helping me with this project. You guys are the best gifts of all! I am not quite sure how I would survive without amazing friends like you by my side.

ALSO, guess what?!! Kate Spade Saturday is hosting an AWESOME giveaway where you have the chance to win a $1000 shopping spree, not only for you, but for four of your favorite girls! CLICK HERE to find out how to enter. I mean, that’s one way to bring on the holiday cheer…good luck! x

Comfy Cozy

30 Nov

Comfy Cozy

New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Cozy sweater, scrunched socks, messy ponytail, love poetry, white wine
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Cozy sweater, scrunched socks, messy ponytail, love poetry, white wine
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Cozy sweater, scrunched socks, messy ponytail, love poetry, white wine
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Cozy sweater, scrunched socks, messy ponytail, love poetry, white wine
New York City Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel Blog: Cozy sweater, scrunched socks, messy ponytail, love poetry, white wine

I’ve made it a goal to spend more time at home these days, which shouldn’t be too difficult considering I am somewhat horrified of what I can only anticipate will be a wretched NYC winter. I guess you can call it an early (and easy to accomplish) New Year’s Resolution!

Over the past two or so years, I have taken on a passion for writing. Not this kind of writing that you read here on the blog, necessarily, but the kind of writing where I really allow myself escape, let down my inhibitions, and document my feelings in a journal that only I will ever have to see. It has become an incredible form of therapy for me, and something that helps me to organize my consistently jumbled thoughts. Shortly after, I took up a strong interest in poetry, and now I have begun reading multiple forms of literature almost daily. I am not patting myself on the back or anything here, as I do recognize that this is obviously a very common hobby…but until recently, I honestly could not remember the last time I picked up a book, let alone finished one. Now I want to read everything and take it all in at once. So if you have any great book recommendations, please do drop a little comment and share!!

My blog is primarily focused on fashion, but this is probably the most authentic expression of my personal style at the moment. Yes, I still go out in public, and try to dress well when I do, but at the same time, I am quite comfortable these days bundled up with my scrunchy socks, booty shorts, oversized sweater, messy ponytail, glass of wine, and a book (thanks to by dear friend Christina for giving me this amazing collection of love poems for my birthday!).

*head to toe: Silence + Noise cozy sweater, vintage tee, bloomers,  UO crew socks

Photography by Jono Bernstein

Peppy

2 Sep

Peppy

New York City fashion, personal style, lifestyle, travel blog: Puerto Vallarta Mexico, vintage dress, peplum dress, resort fashion
New York City fashion, personal style, lifestyle, travel blog: Puerto Vallarta Mexico, vintage dress, peplum dress, resort fashion
New York City fashion, personal style, lifestyle, travel blog: Puerto Vallarta Mexico, vintage dress, peplum dress, resort fashion
New York City fashion, personal style, lifestyle, travel blog: Puerto Vallarta Mexico, vintage dress, peplum dress, resort fashion
New York City fashion, personal style, lifestyle, travel blog: Puerto Vallarta Mexico, vintage dress, peplum dress, resort fashion

“All that is gold does not glitter, not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither, deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ashes a fire shall be woken, a light from the shadows shall spring; renewed shall be blade that was broken, the crownless again shall be king.”

– J.R.R. Tolkien

A few more photos from Mexico earlier this month! Spent a week in Puerto Vallarta celebrating the 50th wedding anniversary of my parents’ long-time neighbors, and our close family friends (which you already know if you had a chance to catch my last post). Snapped some shots outside of the restaurant after their vow renewal ceremony. This backyard was beyond beautiful, the photos don’t even do it justice! Almost like we stumbled upon a secret garden…

I feel very fortunate to have been able to travel so much this year. I love calling New York City home, but at the same time, I have found it very important for my mental health to have the freedom to escape when I need to. I am not a girl who likes to be tied down, and have worked hard to create a life that allows me to move around. I suppose I have become a bit of a wanderer, and find that this lifestyle is necessary in order to stay balanced, inspired, and creatively fulfilled.

Spent the past week or so on the beach in Cape May, NJ and will return to the city tomorrow just in time for Fashion Week…always an exciting time! For the most part, I do like going to shows, and enjoy the hustle and bustle that surrounds the whole crazy extravaganza. But, when it comes down to it, my favorite thing about NYFW is seeing my friends who come to town! It certainly helps ease the blow of returning to the madness that is Manhattan after what has felt like an extended vacation of sorts.

Just like the poem says, “not all those who wander are lost”. In fact, I think for some (myself included), the act of wandering is actually what keeps us from losing ourselves…

*head to toe: vintage peplum dress from Nifty Thrifty, Beau + Ashe shoes