I have been angry for months. Am I entitled to these feelings? I think so. Has it been constructive? Not particularly.
I grew up incapable of staying angry at loved ones for more than 24 hours (and my family and friends could attest to that). Conflict resolution, for me, has typically consisted of a convo along the lines of, “OK, lets talk about it, I love you, how about we hug it out, this was a stupid argument, can we go get 3 bottles of wine now, please?” That girl changed, and it has been really hard to keep my sadness and resentment under control lately. However, it has come time to release the negative energy and let in the light, if you will. Not because I forgive, necessarily, but I am ready to forget and move forward. Wear some cute, comfortable shoes and put one foot in front of the other, prepared to take life as it comes.
Christmas came and went, and while it’s always a bittersweet time of year, for whatever reason, at the end of the day I am very grateful for my life…for my family and all of the beauty that surrounds me. I want to enjoy the blessings I have been given, and celebrate. There is enough animosity going around right now, and my “problems” are pretty small in the grand scheme of things. Not only that, but as a result of recent projects I am seeing how badly the world needs LOVE and support. Why waste my time hating and hurting, when I could be spreading joy, happiness, and focusing more on what’s actually important?
I am working with a small team to help an amazing mother of four, who is very ill with the rare disease, scleroderma. Please check out Stephanie’s story. Any contribution counts. Social sharing is just as important as monetary donations – so please, please join us in helping to spread the word for a family, and friend, in need. It would mean the world to this awe-inspiring crew…the kids need their mamma. Just click here and share the video on your Facebook page. <3 Christmas may have come and gone, but the season for giving is year-round.
As humans we must not forget how important it is to feel. Not just for ourselves, but others as well. Feeling comes with both positive and negative emotions, naturally, and we shouldn’t necessarily shy away any of it – we were built this way for a reason. But we should also try our hardest to channel our feelings, and do something good with them. Life is short, and it is also what we make of it. Be good to others. LOVE. If you don’t know how, now is as good a time as any to try and figure it out.
“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.” -F. Scott Fitzgerald
Anger is a burden that will only set us back, as a community…LOVE and KINDNESS are what ultimately define us as human beings. We will experience trials and tribulations but we don’t have to let them derail us. I, for one, have decided to make an early NY resolution and kick my roadblocks aside, and continue to move forward. Being able to do so while wearing cute shoes is a bonus (thank you, Aerosoles!). You’ll likely find that in letting go of anger, more joy and contentment will come into your heart. When you are filled with love, you will give off love…and that is what we need these days – people who can be kind, who want to help, and will do what they can to work toward building a better world.
*head to toe: vintage grandpa sweater, LNA tank, Rag & Bone cutoff shorts, Aerosoles Trend Setter ballet flats
Photos by Jonothan Mariande